I focus my experiencing and awareness on being
"a pioneer of Evolution
in learning to feel":
I let my Body vibrate and my Heart 'womb'
pain, shame, fear, boredom, powerlessness,
so feelings can >heal >guide>fulfill>evolve,
and ~~~ offer ~~~"goldmines"~~~ to us all!!
"I
want you to feel everything, every little thing!"
K.I.S.S. -
L O G 2
0 0 8
Keep It Simple Sweetheart
May
30, Friday, -at Shoham re-edited on May 29, 2013, at Arad
[from May 29-June2, 2013 - with Mika at Shoham,
while her parents spent a holiday at Barcelona with Ronnit and Uri,
in honor of Uri's 50th birthday in June]
Know exactly what you want, communicate clearly what you want,
then get out of the way, live and play, and let happen what
may! between 8:45 and
9:45 I desire to become free of my
emotional dependance and self-victimization towards my daughter
Contrary to what I intended yesterday, I desire to "do"
something and demand respect from her.
Even if she is a manifestation of "The
Mother" & should be "approached" only when
she wants,
I, too, am an aspect of "The Mother", & when it's
R. who approaches me, but soon regrets,
I desire to be honored at least by a written communication:
"Please, let me retreat again",
instead of cutting me off in defiance, while never telling me
what crime I've committed this time
image of the day: Mother and Daughter 1968 Israel, grasping Imma's
hand
1978, England, learning "MUTUAL
SUPPORTt"
hodayot [thanksgivings] for
today
9:00 My Body,
my Partner,
my God
I give thanks to you for keeping up such a healthy biochemistry,
that no virus nor parasite (like worms in little Mika) has
a chance with us!
I am grate-full that at least with Micha communication is
now smooth,
and that I'll meet Arnon today to work it out with him.
I am grate-full that I was guided to take a small initiative
towards Micha,
but when he assumed that I would coordinate with his sister's
family,
I bluntly refused and said, that this was his job, embarrassing
as it was.
I am grate-full that this way of action resulted in more communication
between my daughter-in-love and my youngest son.
While Efrat once more let him know what zero chance I have
with R.,
he could voice his own exasperation by his sister's "reluctant"
cooperation.
So non-communication of one party led to more communication
of another.
And I am, indeed, "grate-full for small favors",
in this case and always!
While working as a guest-lecturer
for 5 months in Berlin ,
I invited R. to visit me and to also take part in a
Ski+Rebirthing workshop at Aschau/Bavaria.
10 weeks later we celebrated her wedding in Israel.
Both these pictures - and they are the last ones of the two
of us together, as far as I know -
seem to indicate something "not right" between Mother
and Daughter of which R. seemed to become aware,.
when in 2003 she started to study "Group Facilitating",
which included much psychology and psychotherapy.
Except for the crime, that "I did not know" of a family
member's behavior against her and therefore did not protect
her,
she never was ready to communicate to me, what it was and is
that was and is "not right".
In the beginning she did the perfect thing: she asked me to
agree for a freeze of our relationship: "I don't want
to share my life with you, nor do I want you to share your life
with me." I accepted this and occasionally,
when it was asked for, assured her, that I still accepted it.
She even let me know several times, that she was aware of what
she was demanding from me.
But then, whenever there appeared the sprout of an incredibly
cautious communication - prompted by some technical need -
and I responded, while in no way sharing anything personal or
asking her to share anything personal -
I always managed to "trigger"
her (a word, which even my other children cannot dare to use
in her presence),
and the result was : deadly silence. 2013:
The situation is still like exactly like described here.
Except that there were tiny signs of her thinking of me,
when we met during a family-gathering initiated by Micha's family
at Mazkeret Batya , 2 weeks ago,
[- the first contact with my daughter since the
celebration of Immanuel's 50th birthday on 2013-01-25-
[then I had a chance to ask her, why she hadn't responded to
my letter - with some memories - to her birthday 2013-01-04,
and if I had again done something wrong. She retorted: "I
don't want to talk about that".]
Now when Uri distributed the food , she said: "why
don't you give food to my mother, she has to be honored!"
(I was sitting at the edge of the table in the same row as Uri
and he simply had not seen me)
or when we came to talk about a terrible figure in the Bible
called Yishmael ben Natanya and I mentioned my
overview of Israel's ancient history,
she said to one of the grandchildren: "Know,
that this is the best overview of this history I've ever seen!"
You sent me a sign - the delition
of my passage to R. yesterday -
that I should not make any demands after all?
"It
is right to demand , it is even vital for OUR HEALING,
that you demand respect from everybody else.
But why does this demand have to be expressed verbally?
Isn't the point of learning "how to manifest what
you desire",
that you cease trying to do this by words and actions,
as long as you are not whole enough to grasp the whole
puzzle,
which includes all the people, all the world, all creation
WITHIN YOU ?
Trying to fulfill your desire by force -
and "demanding" something verbally
is nothing but "imposing by force" , or "raping"
the results may be 'counterproductive'
i.e. against your own self-interest, against what you
desired,
in other words, they will result in reversal."
[See "Godchannel>Beware
of Reversals']
But my "not
approaching her" so far has been interpreted
as
"my mother can take anything".
" Please do learn the
difference between radiating
that you have so much compassion that you can "take
anything",
and radiating that you are not only "space"
but also "boundary",
and that you demand mutuality in communication,
and be it only: 'Please let me go, I want to withdraw.'
"Being not only SPACE in which the beloved one
will grow
but also BOUNDARY against which the beloved one will
grow",
requires neither 'verbal demands' nor 'sanctions'.
It is how you perceive yourself, that will fulfill your
desire.
Your daughter's behavior only reflects how you perceive
yourself."
"Of course, but it is a law. of which you still
haven't grasped all aspects.
And one role of this actor in your drama is to expand
your understanding!
Do not judge yourself of being "slow",
you have no human model to follow and are a pioneer
on this path.
So for the time being, stick to yesterday's deepened
intention:
to manifest through desire and intent, not through words
and actions.
You heard of the new technology which allows an armless
person
to pick up a spoon by the power of his/her mind.
You may liken your words&action to unwieldy prostheses,
which you can now cast away,
since the power of your desire
merged with the power of your loving spirit
will manifest the reunion of your daughter with you,
her mother,
sooner than you can believe!"
I trust you!
The final edition of the letter to my
daughter
is only (!) about Yael's drashah to her
Bat-Mitzvah
and about Yael's essay "My Journey"
- both translated into English by me.
As to Yael's two quotations
- from "The Little Prince" and from "Moshe
Greenberg". "The Value of the Human Being
in the Bible". I mentioned, how those two were meaningful
in my life
already many decades ago. as to the double meaning of Yael's quote
at the end of her drashah
"And the way is still opening (its eyes) alongside"
or :
"and the way is still opening (its eyes) to your light"
I inserted the
link mentioned on May 26
and I related my talk with Yael on her Bat-Mitzvah: "Your greatgrandfather, Franz Rosenzweig,
would have been so proud of you!"
Continuation
of yesterday's "gallery"
The world passes by,
while Mika is absorbed
in plucking ingredients
for her "daisa" (porridge)
Nourishment from Others
From a Seth clipping. {When putting "Seth" in my
"search",
in order to find out
when - in K.i.s.s.-log - I quoted a clipping from Seth for
the first time,
I reached the page of February
8, and discovered that on this very page
I also inserted a correspondence with my daughter
about her, my daughter's idea to teach the Benot-Mitzvah of
Yael's class...,
a correspondence which was cut off by her just as fast as
any other attempt...]
"In the dream state you allow yourself
greater freedom,
trying out certain ideas and beliefs in the more plastic framework. You may therefore accept new beliefs
initially in the dream state,
and the intellectual or emotional realization may only come
"later". In dreaming, the conscious mind itself
is far more lenient and playful.
It can afford this greater permissiveness because it well
knows
that it need not immediately test out theory in the daily
context.
It very willingly looks inward toward those areas of the inner
self's experience
to see what it can find for its own use,
quite like an explorer searching for resources in virgin territory.
The earth-tuned consciousness must
deal within the space-time context, for only inside this famework can it
clearly perceive events.
In the dream state consciousness ignores space-time relationships
to a large degree, and yet it is still firmly based upon
the body's corporeal mechanism.
Dreams then are physically experienced.
You perceive yourself running, talking, eating, in quite phpysical
activities
- except that they are not performed
by the body that lies on the bed.
.... That kind of dream awareness can literally
regenerate your life,
though the original impact will be forgotten,
and the entire event will usually be translated into images
before awakening.
Such dream events may be called experiences of basic being.
During them,
the self or consciousness literally travels to the source
of its own energy.
On another level atoms possess this same kind of knowing.
(Slowly:)
It may seem that such comprehensions have little to do with
your daily life, particularly since they are so seldom recalled, and
then only in translation;
yet they provide you with additional energy - and when you
need it most.
In periods of stress,
the physically attuned consciousness
will often momentarily forsake its usual orientation and let
itself fall back,
as it were, into the source of its own being,
where it knows it will be regenerated and indeed reborn."
I
could not achieve
"half a Grandma-Day with the Quintet",
and the desired meeting between
me, Yael, Arnon and Rotem,
did not take place.
But Arnon came with his sister ,
and while Ayelet played with Mika
I had 20 min. with Arnon,
to share the upheaval
my cancellation of the RedSeaTour
had caused him and me.
We couldn't afford more than 20 min.,
because Efrat knocked at the door,
announcing that Ayelet became bored.
I was shocked and grieved. "But Ayelet",
I said to her later,
"a year ago, when Mika could not yet talk, you
loved to be with her so much.
How come, that now,
when you can communicate with her,
you get bored?"
"I don't know why,
but I like small children..!
When
I brought the kids
to the zigzag path,
which leads up to "Sunflower Park",
Arnon got excited
and ran all the way up and down,
with Ayelet and Mika in his tow.
When we finally reached the
playground of the park,
we met delightful Galli again [April
7]
that sweet playmate of Mika's in her kindergarden,
who is more than half a year younger than Mika.
It is this child, who after midnight becomes "a monster",
exhausting her parents with incessant screaming for an hour.
After Mika had once beaten Galli
(May 19), Imma talked to her heart,
and since then Mika takes the role of a loving caretaker,
like here:
"Do you want to take off your sandals? I'll do it for
you!" Or:
"I'll protect you when you climb up the stairs!"
One of the fascinating experiences with the -
now - four kids was the experiment with balancing each other on the
one hand,
and the consideration demanded from the older children towards the
younger ones.
After some time,
Galli's father wanted to go home
and took his daughter off the swing.
But the screaming was so pathetic,
that he succumbed and put her back.
Mika "thought",
that she had to look for a chance
when she could imitate her friend.
The chance came,
when Galli and Haim did part
and I asked Mika
to get off for a minute
and let Arnon and Ayelet
do the rough swinging
for which they yearned.
Oh what a scene
did the little actress produce!.....
Before Haim took his daughter away,
I asked him to take a photo of all of us
This was the most tricky experiement: how could
big Arnon balance tiny Ayelet and vice versa?
As to more images
of this evening with Arnon's and Ayelet's- see on
June 1
2013 Immanuel and Efrat, Ronnit and Uri in Barcelona,from the Facebook Immanuel-Efrat
Dancing in Barcelona-
Ronnitand Uri did not agree to the publishing of their pictures on facebook.
But the woman to the left seems to be my daughter after all