The Purpose  of   HEALING - K.I.S.S. - as stated 12 years ago - was and is   to help me and my potential P E E R s  "to HEAL ourselves into WHOLEness, and - by extension - all of CREATion!"

Intro to Healing-K.i.s.s. 2001-2013 and Overview of its main libraries [If you look for a word on this page, click ctrl/F and put a word in "find"]

I focus my experiencing and awareness on being "a   pioneer of  Evolution  in  learning  to  feel": I let my Body vibrate and my Heart 'womb' pain, shame, fear, boredom, powerlessness, so feelings can >heal >guide>fulfill>evolve, and ~~~ offer ~~~"goldmines"~~~ to us all!! "I want you to feel everything, every little thing!"

p.47

Second Movement: The felt sense.

Now she let her attention go to the problem
that, at that moment, seemed to be the worst:
the stormy scene involving that broken dish.
She avoided trying to decide anything about it, trying to analyze it, figure it out.
She simply groped for the felt sense of it.
She asked, "What does all that feel like?"
And then she let the unclear sense come to her in its own way –
large, vague, formless at first, lacking words to describe it,
lacking labels or identifying marks of any kind.
She wasn't impatient with this formlessness.
She didn't demand that it identify itself.
Nor did she try to force an identification upon it
She simply let it exist in its own way for an appreciable time,
perhaps half a minute.

 

Third Movement: Finding a handle.
Now, very gently she asked what the quality of the felt sense was.
She tried to let the felt sense name itself, or to let an image come and fit it.
Again she avoided analysis, self-lectures, assumptions and deductions.

p.48

She wanted the answer to float up from the feeling itself,
not from the confused clutter of material in her mind.
She had asked: What is the worst of this?
The feeling came back Anger at John
A further question: over the broken dish?
The wordless reply: No.
The anger is over his air of jubilation,
the way he radiates confidence about his future.

Thus did the problem change. The inner shift
She received this fully and sensed it over and over
feeling the change going on in her body .
"His jubilation … what now is the whole sense of that?"
She waited.
She did not try to force words onto the felt sense
She sat patiently and let the felt sense speak for itself
(a second movement, again).
She tried to sense its quality,
the fuzzy discomfort of the whole thing,
and to get a "handle" on that quality (third again).
A word came: "Jealous"

Fourth Movement: Resonating.
She took the word "jealous" and checked it against the felt sense.
"Jealous, is that the right word? Is that what this sense is?"
The felt sense and the word apparently were a close match,

p.49

but not a perfect one. It seemed that the felt sense said,
"This isn't exactly jealousy. There's jealousy in it somewhere, but.."

p. 50

She tried "sort-of-jealous" and got a tiny movement and the breath
that let her know that was right enough, as a handle on the felt sense.

p.51
Fifth Movements: Asking

p. 52

Now she asked the felt sense itself:
"What is this sort-of-jealous?
What about the whole problem makes this sort-of-jealous?"

p. 53

She let the question reach the unclear felt sense, and it stirred slightly.
"What is that?" she asked, almost wordlessly.

p. 54

And abruptly, the shift came.
"Sort-of-jealous..uh…it's more like … a feeling of being left behind.".

p. 55

"Ah" came with a large, satisfying sense of movement.
Peggy's body was telling her
that she was unhappy over the fact that her own career was stalled.

Sixth Movement: Receiving
As she tried to stay with the relief of this shift,
she had to protect it from voices that soon attacked her.
"You shouldn't feel that way."
"You're lucky to have the teaching job."
And also "How will you ever get your career moving?"
"You know there's nothing you can do about it."
Peggy shoved all those voices over to one side.
"That all has to wait," she said.
And she came back to sensing the new opening.
"Being left behind.. can I still feel that?
… oh yes. There it is again, yes… that's right… that is how I feel."

Going another Round

But this quality – the feeling of being left behind –
was only the tip of the iceberg.
Peggy wanted to see if it could lead to more change and movement.
And so she went back through the cycle of focusing movements again.
"What is this left-behind feeling? What's the worst of it?"

p. 50

This focusing session lasted for perhaps twenty minutes.
When it was over, Peggy felt enormously refreshed.
The shape of her problem had changed, and so s h e had changed.
She and John then talked calmly about their lives and their futures.
The broken dish was forgotten..
That one focusing session
had not made Peggy's career-versus-motherhood problem vanish,
but it had started a series of beneficial changes inside her.
Further sessions told her more about herself
and helped her to move from where she was stuck.

I discover a cave above the water.
Having carved out two caves and lived in one,
makes caves especially attractive for me.
[See Noah's cave, see The Cave of the Womb]

 

It's difficult to get both, river and cave, into the same picture

 

The cave only, but photographed from across the water

 

 

Strange illumination

 

 

Another perspective of the same spot

P.52

Chapter Five
The Six Focusing Movements
and what they mean.

p.53

Try to find a sense of general physical comfort, if not total well-being.
(That, with luck [??], will come later.)
If small physical irritations are plaguing you,
they will obscure other things your body is trying to tell you.
If you are cold, put on a sweater.
If your foot itches, take off your shoe and scratch.
Settle back and mentally relax.

 

First: Clearing a Space
Now ask yourself, "How do I feel?
Why don't I feel wonderful right now?
What is bugging me on this particular day?"
Listen. Let what comes come.
On any given day you are likely to find
that perhaps half a dozen problems keep you tense inside.
Some may be major life problems
that you have wrestled with many times before.
. Do not try to list every problem you can think of,
but only what has you tense now.

Along with major personal problems,
you are also likely to find that some relatively trivial ones
are upsetting your tranquillity at a given moment.

Let all these problems come up and out;
everything that is keeping you from feeling absolutely content right now.
DON’T' GET SNAGGED ON ANY ONE PROBLEM.
Just list the problems mentally,
the big and the small, the major and the trivial together.
Stack them in front of you and step back and survey them from a distance.

p.55

Stay cheerfuly detached from them as much as you can.
"Well, except for all of these, I'm fine," you can now say.
It might be an awful list but that is all.
"There's that business about George and Joanne.
And there's that loneliness thing –
yeah, I know that one well, that's an old one.
And there' s that funny little one about what I said to Chris yesterday."
Do you feel a small increaee of well-being in you?
Keep stacking the problems until you hear something say,
"Yes, except for those I'm fine."

Second: felt sense of the problem.
Ask which problem feels the worst right now.

p.54 [quoted already as an introduction above]

You are trying to get down to the single feeling
that encompasses "all that about quitting my job."
The feeling contains many details,
just as a piece of music contains many notes.
A symphony may last an hour
and contain thousands of separate musical tones,
sounded by many diverse instruments,
in a multitude of combinations and progressions.
But you don't need to know all these details of its structure in order to feel it.
If it is a symphony you know well,
you only need hear its name mentioned and feel the aura of it instantly.
That symphony: the feel of it comes to you whole, without details.

p.56 [This was also already quoted as introduction, though as p.51]

The felt sense is the holistic, unclear sense of the whole thing.
It is something most people would pass by,
because it is murky, fuzzy, vague.
When you first stay with it, you might think,
"Oh , that? You want me to stay with that?
But that's just an uncomfortable nothing!"
Yes, that is just how your body senses this problem,
and at first that's quite fuzzy.

Third: finding a handle

p.57

In this case it isn't another person
but your own felt sense that will say "cold, cold, cold"
(by not changing one bit)
and then say "ah warmer… hot hot"
(by releasing, or shifting slightly in how your body feels it).
Let words or pictues come from the feeling.
Let it label itself: "scared",
or "a stiff place inside me"
or "a heavy feeling here."

p. 59

Usually, finding the right handle gives one only a small bodily shift,
just enough so you can tell the handle is right.
You will have to sense for this small shift.
So that you don't miss it.
Your attention has to be in your body,
so sense if this word, phrase, or picture makes that little relief in there that says,
"It's right, It fits".

 

Fourth: Resonating handle and felt sense

p.60

The sense of rightness is not only a check of the handle.
It is your body just now changing.
As long as it is still changing, releasing, processing, moving, let it do that.
Give it the minute or two it needs to get all the release and change
it wants to have at this point.
Don't rush on.
You just got here.

 

Fifth: Asking

1. "What is the worst of this?"
(Or, "what is the 'jumpiest' thing about all this"
if your handle word was "jumpy")

2. "What does the felt sense need?"
(or, "What would it take for this to feel OK?")
If you have contacted the felt sense in the usual asking,
and then have also asked these two questions in turn,
and spent a minute or so sensing the unclear felt sense each time,
it may be good to stop focusing for the moment.
Focusing is not work.
It is a friendly time within your body.
Approach the problem freshly later.

 

Sixth:Receiving

p.62

Do you want to go another round of focusing?

p.63

A felt shift feels like a release.
That is how you recognize it.
It may come at any time during any of the focusing movements.
If that happens, welcome it.
Also, some of the movements may happen simultaneously.

It often isn't possible to deal fully with a given problem in one focusing session.
A dozen steps may be necessary, perhaps even a hundred,
before the problem feels resolved.
The process may take many months.

Composition of water, stone and shadow

 

 

 

 

Micha checks the water-flow. Will the cars be able to cross?

 

 

 

 

Micha's jeep approaches the crossing of the water-serpentines

 

 

 

Micha with the children in the back crosses the shallow riverbed

 

 

 

Twelve kids and their parents picnic before the rain

 

The cloud behind Micha and Arnon grows and grows...

 

p.65

Chapter Six What focusing is not

p.68

If you focus on that troublesome felt sense of "all about John,"
you may find that the words that come along with the body shift
add very little to your conscious understanding of your "John" problem.
But understanding is a by-product.

Or what comes may seem beside the point.
"So all right,
now I know a new reason why I'm uncomfortable around John.
Now I know there's something about my job tangled up in this,
But what good does it do me to know that?
Next time I meet him, the problem will still be there, won't it?"

No. It won't - not if that came with a focusing body shift.
The shift in focusing changed your felt sense of John
in hundreds or maybe thousands of subtle ways
that are beyond your power to perceive rationally.
The changes have taken place in your body, not in your rational mind.
Your conscious mind knows little about them.
All you might ever know is that, next time you meet John,
you will feel differently and act differently
(At times, one can  l a t e r  figure out some of it – if one wishes)
The process is admittedly mysterious –
not only to people who experience it for the first time
but also to those of us who have studied it for years.

p.69
Focusing is not a mere body sensation

A felt sense is the body's physical sense
of a problem, or of some concern or situation.
It is a physical sense of meaning.
If you have bodily sensations that seem just purely bodily,
and not related to any aspect of your life, let them go.

[Here I feel, you neglected something, Eugene!
Before any emotional problem etc.
I want to be in contact with my body awareness
– especially with the slightest discomfort in my body
-at any and all moments!
It will then also be much easier
to sense any "non-physical problem" in my body!
In the healingtowholeness site , which learnt from you, Eugene,
this necessity of sensing "purely bodily sensations" is included.]

Ask yourself how your life is going,
and quite soon you will have a bodily felt sense

Focusing is not just getting in touch with "Gut Feelings"

You might have a distinct and intense feeling in relation to some problem,
and usually the same one over and over.
Especially, if you have had that feeling many times,
there is little point in having it over again, one more time.
The felt sense is wider, less intense, easier to have,
and much more broadly inclusive.
It is how your body carries the whole problem.

I think, this and the following three photos were Arnon's choices

 

 

p.71

Chapter Seven: Clearing a Space for yourself

p. 72

Clearing a cluttered Room
Finding the right distance from your problems

p.73

Permission to feel good
Some people have told me
that this first movement somehow seems like escaping problems.
They believe they must feel every bad feeling to the fullest at all times.
They seem to feel guilty about feeling good, even briefly.
They feel it is their duty to feel bad incessantly
as long as the problem is unsolved.
. You aren't escaping it by taking a brief respite from it.
You have done just the opposite.
You have made yourself capable
of handling it in a more effective and different way.

Not as a monument
Think of the first movement as a brief time
when you allow yourself to stop being a monument to your troubles.
Most people harbor a feeling
that they must make their bodies express their troubles constantly.
We live life with our bodies.
Every trouble and bad situation is like a cramp in the body.
As long as the body is cramped by trouble,
it already has the shape of the trouble
and therefore can't cope with that trouble as a fresh, whole body.
It copes with the trouble while being the trouble.
Therefore focusing begins with giving your body a break,
in which to let it become whole.

p.74

The fear is of avoiding and forgetting.
It is as if you had only two choices; either avoid or feel terrible.
But there is a third choice; let the body feel whole and sound,
don't become the embodiment of your troubles,
just have them in front of you.
You have not avoided them
and yet you are not totally overwhelmed by them.

A muddy waterfall