puzzle piece 28b
No overriding,
no letting override

p.55-58 "FREE WILL BETWEEN PEOPLE"

"...Everyone has been finding
they can only do some of the things they want to do.
Many have thought
that compromise was necessary,
but compromise is a judgment, usually in advance of the experience,
that the entirety of the proposal
is not appropriate.

"This impedes the evolutionary process
because no one compromising finds out
if their own approach
works or not.
Compromise is really no more reasonable
than denying parts of people ...

"The experience itself
is needed to show
how it can actually take place that everyone can do
exactly as they wish
without having to compromise,
be overridden by another
or be overriding toward another...

"Real help is what people need when there is conflict,
not a settlement
which is enforced whether people have agreement or not.

"That which cannot align
with the settlement
is forced
to be held undercurrent...

"...Settlement needs to feel right to all parties involved
or it is not a real settlement.

"When you've already denied things in yourself
it can be very hard to notice
when you are denying those things in another.

"While in the process
of clearing out
any old denial you have,
you can aid all of your interpersonal relationships
by just observing
this simple guideline;
do not impose your own approach on anyone else
and do not let anyone else impose their approach on you either...

"To understand your denial here
you need to feel
your true feelings
and let yourself hear
all the thoughts
you would normally push away from your relationships with others.

"Once you have
all the information
from your own being,
you can make any adjustments you need to make
in the relationship
based on your own needs

"The other peole involved need to make their needs clear also. ...

p.58-61
"For example,
do not let another person
tell you
how you should be relating. Instead, let that person express his or her feelings toward you.

" Then you have the opportunity
to change the way
you relate to that person
or to stop
relating to that person.

"If you have to end a relationship with someone,
you need to end it
without judging that person
or yourself.
If judgments are already involved, you need to understand yourself enough
to end the judgments
and release the emotional charge around them.

"You can release yourself
from the other person having any power over you
by releasing all the feelings and judgments involved in the situation.

"In other words,
feelings are for you
to feel and express,
but not for the purpose
of manipulating others.

p.129
"...I did not make Spirits
to overpower one another.
You can only be overpowered
by another
if you give up
some of your power
so that they then appear
to have more.
...

"Overpowering
does not need to happen
between parents and children either.

"Children need an opportunity
to develop
their own responses
to situations
and learn to choose Accordingly.

"...If parents are not meaning to interfere
with Free Will of their children
but do not really understand it,
let Me say this:

"It does not mean
letting the children
run over you ;
do not deny yourself here..."